In life, our point of focus becomes our reality. We get more of what we expect and at the end of the day, we become creators of our destiny. How do we create our own destinies?
Simple really. What we think about most of the
time and how we see the world, will affect our belief system; our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us in turn influences our actions and how we relate to the world around us; it is our action which then have repercussions and produce the results that define our lives. If we expect lack, problems, misfortune, we will act (whether consciously or subconsciously) in a manner that will make lack, problems
and misfortune manifest in our lives; conversely, if our focus is on
success, opportunities and a perpetual hope that things will get better,
we will again (consciously or subconsciously) act in a way that will
attract the people, resources and opportunities that will make success
and achievement manifest in our lives. Focusing on the challenges will
only paralyze us thus making it infinitely more difficult to raise
ourselves out of our problems; focusing on opportunities empower us to find creative avenues around our challenges and to accomplish that which we seek.
Yes challenges will occur and problems will arise and I am not by any
means ignoring that fact. What I am saying that in spite of those
challenges, we can still choose to make empowering decisions as opposed
to toxic ones and by so doing
change the eventual outcomes that manifest in our lives. It is for this
simple fact that two people can both come from disadvantaged
backgrounds, and face identical challenges of poverty; yet by making
very different decisions in spite of those challenges one person will
create their own opportunities and rise out of poverty while the other
will continue to complain, make excuses, do nothing constructive about
it and so remain in poverty. It’s not the facts that face us that are important; it’s what we choose to do in spite of those facts that make all the difference.
Yet, many find it difficult to come to terms with the fact that they are
indeed the creators of their own destinies – perhaps this could be
because admitting this fact would mean that if things are not going
great in their lives, then they would have to do something serious about
it; and often times doing something to turn our lives around means
work. We seem to find it far easier to blame someone else or something else
for our misfortunes and missed opportunities because it somehow
assuages our conscience and makes it easier to abdicate responsibility.
By doing this we do not feel directly responsible for our predicament,
which invariably means that we don’t feel the urgent need to get up and
do something about it, ourselves.
We wait and expect “someone” to come along and fix it or wait for the
“right opportunity” to show up. As a result many live lives of quiet
desperation, stuck in their quandary, remaining victims of circumstance;
while the few that choose to get up, take charge of their lives and do something about it eventually break free and achieve success.